Should I date this stripper ?

by Justin

I have a question. It's kind of a long story. I don't really have a problem picking up women, but I quickly realized it wasn't for me because I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, I'm not the typical guy who just wants to get laid, as nice as it may be. So I don't really ever date too much anymore (I'm only 26), I'd rather be single, mostly to protect myself.

With that in mind... My nephew turned 18 about a week ago. He really wanted to go to the strip club and couldn't get any of his friends to go. We are only 8 years apart so he called me also. I decided family had to do what it had to do and I took him.

I have been in strip clubs enough to know how the story goes, but hadn't been to this one in years. We got there and sat at the bar. We didn't sit for more than 3 minutes when a couple of girls approached us and one sat beside me while the other stood between my nephew and I. I was a little buzzed and was having a good conversation when the one sitting beside me started asking the typical questions, what do you do, do you have a girlfriend etc.

I told her I was an engineer, which I am, and may have been a mistake. Pretty soon she started saying it was her birthday that upcoming weekend and I should take her out. I tried blowing her off without being a dick. I'm old enough to have heard of horror stories of dating strippers and I knew better than that. She asked for my phone number, not the other way around. I still didn't give it to her. I asked what her real name was and without skipping a beat she gave me her real name, I've noticed some strippers don't like to do that so I figured it'd be a good test, I was wrong.

Both of them were pressuring me to give her my number or ask for hers. The other stripper finally asked if I wanted a dance to which I said no. Then she suggested I buy a double dance for my nephew, which I said sure, and may have been(probably was) another mistake.

They took him back and began giving him a dance which he told me later they were trying to get him to tell me to ask for her number or give her mine. They came back and she sat and talked with me for a while, actually until we left, about 2 hours total, however it was a slow night so that probably had something to do with it.

The whole time she was trying to get phone numbers exchanged. Finally when we left, I wrote mine down. My line of thinking was she was just trying to suck money out of me so I figured I'd put the ball in her court. We didn't even get to my car before I got a text from her. I called her two days later and we agreed to go out on her night off, which was last night.

We went out, had a normal date, she didn't dress like a skank, wasn't obnoxious or anything. She has a kid, she dropped out of high school. I'm laughing typing this because it's so typical. Nevertheless, compared to any other typical girl she was normal but obviously a little more open. Hell, she didn't even ever take out her cell phone until once to add me to facebook and once driving back.

I have to give it to her, even though she does only have her GED, she knows the difference between to, two, and too and has a better vocabulary than most college kids. One of her, I assume, "regular" girlfriends is having a party and she asked if I wanted to go to it, not to a bar, but to a regular house party.

I'm confused because most of me wants to say that I know this storyline and get the fuck out before my emotions come into play, but a little bit of me says what the fuck why not, I haven't found anything wrong with her yet (which is usually easy for me).

So, should I date this stripper? Or am I just looking for trouble?

Thanks,
Justin




Answer:

Hi Justin,

If you like her, then you should date this girl. Simple as that.

Now, you have to ask yourself if there have been any "deal breakers" unveiled as of yet. She's a stripper, but she might not be a stripper forever. She has a kid though too. And she will have a kid forever. And, would that kid's father be around forever too?

So, you have to judge for yourself whether or not you see this turning into a serious relationship. But, regardless, go to the party, get to know her a little better. If this girl is perfect for you, "the one", it would be a shame to pass that up.



Editor, CDI