Sex on a First Date?
Your age, experience, and relationship expectations are not unimportant. You need to have a good idea of how you will react emotionally to sexual intercourse with a new partner. If you're unsure, you might want to play it safe and leave things at first base. Also, waiting a little while might be right if you want a serious relationship from a sexual partner. It's very difficult to gauge a date's intentions solely after one night out. Make sure you're both on the same page before taking things further. Other things to think about...
Even if you don't usually have sex on a first date, you may still appear promiscuous by jumping under the sheets so early on. It's difficult to shake this impression once it has been given. So, even if you do decide to go for it, make it clear that this is not your modus operandi. On the flip side of this coin, you should consider whether your date is so cavalier with every woman. Is he always on sexual fast-forward? Could this guy be faithful if he is so easily seduced?
There is something to be said for giving a little chase. As weird as it seems, men and women both are more drawn to what they deem more difficult to win. By giving away the goods so early on, you might damper his attraction to you, even if the attraction was strong to begin with. Obviously, playing hard to get is only effective to a certain point. You want to be viewed as a challenge, but not an insurmountable one.
This, or course, is a very personal question. There is no concrete answer. If you are confident and sexually experienced, you may be OK with (or even prefer) the possibility of a one night stand. If that's the case, having sex on a first date is absolutely fine. If, however, you're inexperienced, tend to be more emotionally sensitive, or you're looking for a long term deal, simply wait until it feels right. If he's a good and considerate fellow, he'll understand.
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