Letting go of the little things

by gary
(central point, oregon 97502)

I love my girlfriend very very much, i believe i want to live the rest of my life with her. However, last night she said she doesn't want to have to hide things from me, she wants to be able to do whatever she wants. By that i mean she wants to smoke cigarettes and stuff like that. I am very against those kinds of things. I want to make the relationship work, so should i not be so strict on those kinds of things?

Answer

In short, yes.

If you really love this girl Gary, you've got to let her be herself. If she is doing something that is a deal breaker for you, you need to let her know. If she can't refrain from doing that thing, then you may have to end it.

But, as long as she isn't doing blow off of male strippers every night, or doing anything that could cause real harm to her, you, or your kids, if you ever choose to have them, you should let her make her own decisions and respect those choices.

That was a long sentence. But, you get what I mean right. Don't let the little things get in the way of great relationship.