I've been cheated on three times...

by Niki
(San Jose, CA)

I am 19 years old, am a female and feel like I need help with my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and 1 month.

I love him very much and It's hard for me to look at reality because I am so blinded by my love for him. I know my boyfriend loves me just as much as I love him, I have my reasons, it's just too long too write.

He has cheated on me twice (made out) with the same girl towards the end of our first year together. He has regained my trust since then and yet recently(a couple months ago) he had made out with another girl. My boyfriend really makes me happy but what he did to this day makes me hurt inside and now my trust that he had regained has been lost.

He knows what he did is wrong and truly admits that he loves me and wants to change, he also reassures me that he will no longer put me through what he had put me through. I am young, yet for some reason I feel compelled to him, as he does as well.

He also goes to school 2 hours away from me and is willing to show me that he can really regain my trust back again. I am scared, no confident in our relationship, but all together deep down inside I feel like it will work.

He wants us to see a doctor he's taken sexual transmitted tests for me, he says he's willing, but I'm scared.

I don't know what to do...





Answer:

Hi Niki,

Unfortunately, there isn't much advice I can give you. Part of the reason he may be tempted to make out with other girls is because you guys live so far apart. Do you get to spend much time together?

If you think it will work out, you should at least try. But, if he hurts you again, in the same way, don't keep torturing yourself. There are plenty of guys out there who won't cheat on you.



Editor, CDI