Is my coworker attracted to me?

I am married, 45 years, loving wife, 2 children. I live alone in a foreign country. My family is in home country.

In my workplace, I came across a married woman. She is one of the prettiest women I have ever seen. We are working on a project for the last 3 months.

Although I was fascinated by her beauty and speech, I did not dare to evince my interest. She is a very calm, quiet woman and knows what she is doing. She is married and it is a love marriage.

About a few weeks ago, I started noticing her gestures demonstrating high levels of shy feeling, like smiles, seeing me from the corner of the eyes, and sometimes sayings like "take anything you want", "we will do the other project".

The signals, if I may call, were mixed. When I look at her, she smiles and takes the eyes elsewhere. We have been meeting everyday in my office (except weekends) and worked together for 2 hours daily.

The country I live in is a very conservative. Her visiting my office has caused rumours in the office. When I told her how some of the colleagues remarked about her coming to office daily and spending time with me, she said they are acting "stupid".

After a point of time, her face turned red, and that is all. She did not turn up for the past five -six days. I was angry that day, and did not talk with her in the usual manner. The project work which we do together, might proceed, but with interactions not at the levels we were in.

I spoke to her over phone, she seemed slightly withdrawn. We started continuing the work as usual, but she seems to be withdrawn.

I am confused. Does she love me? Or is this only my love imagination?






Answer

There is probably an attraction there. It's easy to become attracted to someone you work one on one with for many hours.

But, you should try your best to put this out of your mind. Both of you are married, with families. Unless you're unhappy with your marriage, or you and your wife have agreed to have an open relationship, these thoughts are only going to get you, and her, into trouble.

So, yes, you both are probably attracted to each other. But, there is no need to find out. Just try to be good colleagues and good friends.