is he a player or just shy?

i met this guy from online dating. we chatted for 1 week before we met. first date went great. we opened up a little bit about our past and what we wanted from a relationship.

there was a strong attraction and we ended up kissing. 2nd date was even better and we felt even more comfortable and ended up in bed. he wanted to stay with me even after sex and we just held each other tight. then he still wanted to see me even after that and we dated outside as well.

he seems like a shy guy. makes me feel special when we are together and said he wants us to take it slow before we jump into a relationship. i wanted to stop seeing him just because i was falling for him. but he said he wanted to work it out and see where this dating leads us too.

i turned down a lot of his offers to hang out with me and spend time together. but he still asks me out. is this good or bad. we both just came out of a bad relationship by the way. is he just being careful or is he just playing.





Answer

You haven't really included anything that makes me think this guy is being manipulative any way. If you both are coming out of bad relationships, it makes sense to take it slow. If you doubt his feelings for you, try not to invest yourself fully in him until you're more sure.

But there is no reason to stop dating this guy.