Infidelity Warning Signs

Change In Routine

A romantic relationship requires time. If your partner has begun an affair, his usual routine will have to bend to accommodate the new relationship.

You know your partner better than anyone. Take note of any substantial changes in his routine that would account for the extra time needed to maintain another relationship.

Keep an eye out for warning signs such as coming home late, traveling more often, or spending additional time with friends.

Sudden Increase of Attention

Though it seems counter intuitive, a cheating partner may suddenly show you more attention, or act more caring and romantic than usual.

This happens because your mate is feeling guilty about the affair, and needs to assuage these feelings of guilt by treating you really well.

Keep an eye out for a sudden increase in attention, gifts, or other romantic gestures.

Picking Fights

Another infidelity warning sign is if your partner constantly tries to initiate arguments with you. Fighting is, inevitably, an aspect of every relationship, but beware if your mate seems to invite an argument.

Your partner may want to fight often in order to justify the affair in his mind. This way he can say, "well, this relationship isn't working out, so it's OK to look for companionship elsewhere".

Take extra note if he brings up the topic of breaking up, or taking time apart to "cool off".

Instant Changes of Taste

If someone is having an affair, they may begin to reflect the person with whom they are cheating. This could be represented by a sudden change of taste in music, movies, or literature.

Having one's likes and dislikes influenced by another person is a strong signal of attraction and allows cheaters to feel close when they are apart for extended periods.

Be wary if your partner who has never really cared for opera, suddenly starts listening to Wagner every night.

Emotional and Physical Isolation

Someone who has begun cheating will begin to emotionally and physically isolate themselves from their mate so they don't feel guilty.

For example, if your wife has always kept the door open when in her study, she may begin to keep it closed. This is not necessarily because she is doing something suspicious in there, she may just start to feel more comfortable when isolated from you.

Guilt When You're Nice

If your partner is cheating, she may feel guilty or become upset when you are especially nice or giving to her. By being sweet, you cause your partner to question her motives for having an outside relationship.

After all, your mate probably justifies the affair by convincing herself that you are no longer truly interested in her, no longer in love.

Disinterest

If your mate is cheating he may become disinterested:

• in the quality of your day


• in making love


• in spending time with the kids (if you have any)


• when making love


• in the future of the relationship


• in your family and friends

Should you notice any of these infidelity warning signs you should consider investigating the situation further, and confront your partner when you have solid proof.

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