I love my roommate

by Ana
(Las Vegas Nevada)

My roommate and I were hooking up and started to develop strong feelings with each other over a period of one month, then his ex girlfriend came back into the picture and he admitted to me that he still had feelings for her but wasn't sure what they meant. So, he went back with her.

They broke up one more time after that and he went back to me for closure, but we ended up hooking up for another month and more feelings developed.(making story short) One night we are hanging out with friends and his ex shows up and they start hanging out.

We all had a couple of drinks and he and her disappear. They come back like 20 minutes later and I knew something went on. I asked him about it and he told me he took her virginity and were talking now since she still cares for him that he is going to have to get back with her and try to make things work.

We live in the same house. She always comes over but he tells me he misses me and that he is sorry for hurting me like that and that he still cares for me, but he did something he can't get out of because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings since he's known her longer and has history with her.

I hold no grudge on either her or him. I just want him back with me because i fell in love and he fell in love for me too. I don't know what to do I'm going crazy.




Answer:

You may not like my answer very much, but I think you need to try to move on here. He had a pretty clear choice to either be with you, or go back to his girlfriend, and he decided to stay with her.

The fact that he's known her for longer, taken her virginity, etc, doesn't matter. If he wanted to be with you more than with her, he would do it.

Move on. Right now he has no reason to choose you. He sees that you love him, and that you're patiently waiting for him to return. This allows him to be with his ex, while also having you for emotional support, and knowing that if things fall through, you'll be there for him. It's a pretty nice situation.

If you start dating other people, and stop showing him emotion, he really will have to make a choice, or he'll lose you. He may choose you, he may not. Either way, you'll be in a better situation than you are now. Move on. Make him really choose.

Good Luck,

Editor, CDI