how to win back love

by paula
(slidell al)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years!

It hasn't been all wonderful, but no one has cheated or lied or has done anything else destructive along the way! I thought we would be together forever. About a month ago he tells me he isn't happy with any part of his life and wants to change everything about it and hasn't been happy with me for years!

I didn't see that one coming I mean we have changed through the years but I don't want to live without him in my life! We have had normal issues and i would try for a little while to discuss it with him but never got any action, so I decided to be happy and get over the things I could live with!

He is 39 and is having a hard time dealing with it and thinks he has wasted the past 2 years and says he is confused and doesn't know if he really loves me or not and I told him lets get counseling to figure things out and give it 110% for 6 mos. to a year and see what happens!

The time we have been together is too long to throw away without really trying our best! We would be no worse off after that and then we would be better within ourselves for it! Please help me with this! He is my life and I don't want to lose him!






Answer:

This may not be the answer you were looking for.

If it were possible to successfully convince him to stay with it, to give it 110%, you probably would have already succeeded. He has come to the conclusion, correct or not, that he needs to try something new.

You can't force him to want to stay with you. He needs to figure that out on his own. That is the only way that you can have a relationship together that he won't end up resenting.

Let him go. Try to move on. Date other people. The quicker you are able to move on, the quicker he will start to question if he made the right choice.

Thats the only way to get him back. Thats the only way for he'll be happy with you. He needs to win you back. Not the other way around.

It won't be easy. But, you can do it.

Good luck.