guy blames everything on my age

by steph
(england)

Well i have been in a relationship with a guy who is 46 for a year and 8 months, i am 20. All the way through the relationship he blames everything on my age.

For instance: He has split with me now and i said I'm not sure how to deal with loosing a loved one and he says see you're inexperienced in life and its because of your age. Now my mom and dad are in there 50s and have been together all there life and are not any better at it, so its not age.

A lot of the time i had to point things out and he will say yes you're right but most times he was stubborn.

Any idea why he blames everything on my age? Take into consideration i have had a different up bringing always surrounded my older people so i am much more mature, as my dad was a drummer and lived the rock n roll lifestyle, i got married at 18 to a millionaire in Hawaii, my life had been anything but normal compared with other 20 year old's surrounded by me.



Answer

Some people will use any way possible to gain control over someone they are in a relationship with. You being much younger than him was an easy and obvious way for him to assert some sort of control over you.

If you keep dating guys that are significantly older than you, you might keep running into this problem, Steph. A lot of guys that are interested in dating much younger girls do so because they believe they can use their age as a way to assert more control over the relationship.

Unless you're into that kind of thing, I would avoid the significantly older guys...

Your odds of finding a caring, non-condescending boyfriend will be better if you stick to men a little closer to your age bracket. That's just my two cents.

Good Luck!