Getting him to love me again.

by Eva
(Ottawa)

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. He just recently went on a trip July 15, and came back august 15.

Before he left we had the best relationship i could ever imagine, we never got into a fight and we just connected so well and were so in love...

He even cried the day he was leaving and told me how much he loved me, how much he'd miss me and already couldn't wait to come back home. We talked almost every day when he was gone and i was so excited for him to come back.

So, when he got back home he texted me and seemed excited to see me. We hung out but it wasn't how i expected it to be, he smiled and gave me a kiss but just didn't seem too happy. The next day he told me we needed to talk, so i met up with him and he said that he just felt like he didn't love me as much as he used too and thinks we should go on a break, he said that he wants to hang out with me soon and still considers me his girlfriend, but I'm so confused about the whole situation now. I really don't know what to do.

Please, please help me. I need to win that love that he used to have for me back.



Answer

Hi Eva,

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. You are in a tough spot here. There is no magic bullet that will make him feel the way he used to.

Often times, going on a trip, like the one your boyfriend went on, will alter how that person feels about a lot of things. It seems like his feelings for you might have been one of the things that changed.

So, what to do? Well, just be that girl that he used to love. Hopefully as he spends more time around you he'll start to remember why he loved you so much to begin with.

What you don't want to do right now is to get really mad at him, and hate him for the way he feels. He probably didn't want to feel this way, it just happened. If you judge him for the way he feels, you'll lose any chance of getting him back.

So, as difficult as it might seem, try to be understanding, and do your best to try to move on and continuing to be his friend.

Losing your first love is the worst. The absolute worst. Know that if you don't get back together, it's not the end of the world. You will love again.

Regards,

Editor, CDI