Friends with benefits

by Macy
(ny, ny)

Will the man I'm totally crazy about respect me for turning him down on his offer for friends with benefits or am i missing something and he does not respect me any way?

I want to be in a real relationship not a no strings attached fling... Thank you for all you input. I also told him this and he knows how I feel because i told him plain and clearly.


ANSWER:

Hi Macy...

Telling a guy that you don't want to be in a friends with benefits situation won't make him respect you less. But, you still may not get what you want.

You have to give the guy credit for being honest with you though... Most guys would probably try to sleep with you first before bringing up the fact that they aren't really interested in anything but sex.

The trick to getting him to commit to a long term relationship is first understanding a man's thought process and then using this knowledge to your advantage...

- Brenda