Falling out of love...

by Grace

I am 23 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years now. I have a child with someone else from a previous relationship.

My child's father cheated on me constantly throughout our relationship and I fell into my new boyfriend's arms. At first we were so great, but now I think I have fallen out of love. I am irritable at him all the time for no reason and picking fights. I find my eyes wandering, and find reasons to not have sex because the sexual attraction isn't there anymore.

Last weekend, I went out with a friend and ended up cheating on my boyfriend. I know how it feels and i can't believe I had done that to him. I feel awful and told him I would change. He has already forgiven me and he told me he loves me enough to give me another chance.

I find myself full of guilt because I still feel like I do not have those feelings back. Do you think that I should just break up with him and let him live his life with someone who will love him more? Or, should I try and make it work?





Answer:

Hi Grace,

It's good that you're aware of the mistakes you've made, and the harm you've caused. And the fact that you're seeking advice just proves that your heart is in the right place.

You should end this relationship. You know that it's not going to work out. If you don't love someone, then you don't love someone. Falling out of love sucks, but sometimes it happens.

You're not going to be doing him any favors by dragging out another year of a sex-less, love-less, infidelity prone relationship. So, break up with him. Let him down easy. Make sure he knows that you're not breaking up with him because of the guy you slept with, or any other guy you've met, but because you just don't feel the way you used to.

Good Luck!
Editor, CDI