fairytale relationship

by jim

Hello my name is Jim,
I am 17 years old and met a 16 year old girl whilst on my summer vacation in Italy.
We met at the same hotel we were staying at and we just hit it right off. Unfortunately our time at the hotel had to end sometime. So after 3 days of meeting this girl, i have met her parents and she has met mine and they hit it off as-well which is fantastic.
Unfortunately she left to another place in Italy whilst i was staying in the hotel for a while longer. Her parents had talked to my parents and arranged for us to meet again at a villa that they had rented. Once my families stay at the hotel was over we headed over to the villa where they were staying. This was fantastic as i got to see her again.

The time we had at the villa was amazing. We took walks together and had really good talks. It was amazing to see how it was not just us getting along really well it was also the parents. I was really happy that it was all working out so well. Naturally all good times have to end. So later that week she flew back to the USA and i went back to my home in Munich Germany. In Munich all i could think of was her, we talked everyday over Skype.

In Italy her mom and i had talked about me flying over to the States to go and see her. So thats what i wanted to do. I got a job and worked for 3 weeks so i could get enough money for my plane ticket. Everything worked out and i flew out to see her. Unfortunately the summer vacation was almost coming to an end so i was only there for a week. Nevertheless that week was great.

There was one incident that i would have done very different if i could have done it again. Her mom had a little pot stash that we took a little from. We smoked it in the house whilst the parents were gone. They never found out, until i had left. This is where i have my problem. We have a great time in italy and then a great week in the States.

I fly back to Germany and we started talking again over Skype. A little while later i get a message saying that i need to call her mom. So i did and the mom tells me that she found out we smoked pot. I told her yes and that i was sorry. She tells me her daughter told her what had happened.

I had no problem with this and i talked to the mom about it who was not mad but disappointed in me and her daughter. After i talked with the mom i decided i wanted to talk to the daughter so i write her a message over Facebook explaining the phone call i just had with the mom.

She does not reply. This struck me as odd as she always answers my Facebook messages. Then i try to chat to her but she only talked to me very briefly and then without saying goodbye or anything she just logs off. I was a little frustrated as i did not have any idea of what was going on.

I hope shes not mad at me, but im starting to think she is. Shes never been so distant toward me and its really starting to worry me. What should i do?







Answer:

Unless you've left something out, there really isn't any reason why this girl should be mad at you.

Who cares about the whole pot ordeal? In the long run it's not a big deal, and shouldn't have any effect on your relationship with this girl or her parents.

You just need to talk with her to get on the same page again. This will happen. She's not going to ignore you forever because of getting in trouble. Just get her on the phone and get past this.

But, keep in mind that she misses you just as much as you miss her. If she isn't answering your messages, give it some time and let her contact you when she is ready. Whatever might be causing her radio silence won't be fixed by your manic persistence. Make sure she knows you want to talk with her, and let her call you when she's ready.

Good Luck.