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Boyfriend needs some time apart

by Deanna
(Ontario)

I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We met in a very special way and we're honestly so in love. Everything is perfect between us, he always tells me how in love with me he is and how I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. We've never gotten into a fight, we're always just really happy with each other... But, then one day he just said that he was thinking about things and that he wants some time to himself, with school and some family situations... He said it could be a couple days or maybe a week, but not too long... And, he said he for sure wont break up with me because he loves me and cant see himself without me. He said i could call him and and text him whenever i want too, i did but now he says I am doing it too much. I'm so confused and i don't know what to do because i want to give him his space and time, but I'm scared that if i stop calling/texting that he'll like that time away from me and just forget about being me..even though i know he says he wont, i still have that fear.

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Boyfriend needs some time apart

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Jun 04, 2009
 Deanna,
by: Michael B

Since I have no real idea what your boyfriend is going through / reacting to, I can't help you out in the confusion department. But, hey, love is confusing, and nobody would claim otherwise.

The good news is that I don't need to know what is going through his head in order to advise you, because my answer would be the same for most circumstances.

You need to give him the space he asked for.

For two people in a serious relationship, taking a break is great way to remember, or even discover, why you love and need that other person so much. He will not, I promise you, suddenly realize how much he likes being away from you just because you start calling him less frequently.

Most likely, the opposite will occur. The more you refrain from calling and texting, the more quickly he will realize that he needs to be with you. So, give him some space right now, and trust him. He will be back in your arms much quicker that way.

Good luck, and we'd love for you to give us an update when things pan out. And, feel free to ask if you have more questions.

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