Boyfriend giving money to his ex girlfriend...

by gina
(corpus christi, texas usa)

Recenetly me and a friend i have known for years reconnected and started talking again. it seems everytime we become friends our feelings get stronger for one another.

he has just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and has a two year old son. the thing is he says he likes me and wants to see where things go, but he bends over backward for his ex giving her everything from his furniture since they moved out to money whenever she needs it for their son( which i dont think is really for their son)

ive told him about it and he admits he shouldnt do it but that shes the mother of his child. he says he is going to stop but i dont know. they have been broken up for about 4 months now. how long should i wait to see if anything does change?
sincerly
confused





Answer

If you really like this guy, you need to give him a lot more time. More importantly, you need to realize the reality of dating someone with a child.

He should be helping to support his child in whatever way he is needed and able. Also, as a new father, that is going to be his desire. Look at it as him bending over backwards for his kid, not for his ex.

Now, if you feel like he is so involved with his ex that it is impeding your relationship from developing, you should have that discussion, and figure out how long it will take for him to be emotionally available again.

But, only address the emotional aspect. You can't and shouldn't guilt him for wanting to be there for his son in whatever way he can.

Good Luck.