Am I falling out of love?

I have been dating this girl now for 5 years, I am a female who has had relationships with both males and females in the past. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years now, and I am starting to question whether I am in love with her, or if we would be better friends.

We bought a house together 3 years ago and are pretty embedded in each others lives. But I don't miss her when I am not there, sexually I haven't been into the relationship.

She is great, very supportive wonderful partner, but I have never been with a man the way I have been with a woman, and am starting to question if I need to at least see where that takes me. I love her, but should I act on my curiosity, or just know the grass isn't greener on the other side, and this feeling of curiosity will pass?

What if I do try a relationship with a man, and it isn't what I wanted and have lost the best partner I ever could have asked for?

How should I go about figuring this out?





Answer:

If you do think this desire is a passing curiosity, attempt to let it pass. There is no reason to jeopardize a stable long term relationship over an urge that could pass.

It doesn't seem like that is the case though.

Assuming your feelings are not going to change, but inevitably grow stronger, you need to have a conversation with your partner. You need to tell her exactly what you've written above.

Then, propose an open relationship. This will allow you to see whats out there without destroying what you've built together. The only way it can work is if you're completely honest with each other.

You may find that you're happier with her then anyone else, or you may learn that you need to move on. She may learn one of these as well.

Don't let your relationship just lay stagnant for the rest of your life. Also, don't destroy what you have. Through communication and honesty, you'll have a chance to learn what you need to learn.