affection and sex

by Sara
(TN)

So, I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now and I'm fighting not to leave. Almost every time we are about to have sex, something is wrong with her.

Her foot hurts her back hurts...etc. Even sometimes when i want to snuggle or just kiss her she refuses. I love her and she loves me. I believe that our problem is that I'm affectionate and loving and she is not. what do i do? Throw away a year and a half or continue to get hurt on a daily basis from rejection?


ANSWER:

Unfortunately, I think you're probably going to have to do the latter.

First though, make sure she knows how you feel. Tell her you need more affection out of a relationship. Maybe she just wasn't aware of this problem. But... that probably isn't the case.

Some people just don't require as much physical affection as others. So, it may not be that she doesn't love you. She very well might. But, as I've said before, sexual compatibility is incredibly important for a relationship to work (as you've been experiencing).

So, if she can't give you what you need to be happy, you've got to move on. It sucks, but it's better than the alternative.